Stop talking, start doing

Has anyone else heard people around you about how much they are planning, how much they’re thinking and of course my favorite, ‘what someone should be doing.’ This bothers me because it honestly seems nothing is really getting done anymore, it just seems that results have gone away and left a path paved with peoples ‘good intentions’, mind you a road that seems to be leading to hell.

What brings this on is I’ve heard some people around me talking about how much they’re trying to accomplished a task and how hard it is and how no one seems to understand how hard these task are. I remember my mother telling me that she never wanted to hear when I was going to clean my room, or when I was going to get to my homework and even the dishes. No, she said a one liner that always pissed me off but makes complete sense today. She would say, ‘Here you are telling me instead of doing it? That would mean the basic slap in the back of the head and of course I’d feel a bit scared of being in trouble because everything that needed to be done still wasn’t.

Now here we are and I’ve got a friend who’s complaining about how hard it is to find a job but complains on top of that about sending out 10 emails a day or making some calls. What really gets me is that they’re working only 3 days a week and are complaining about how they’re just so tired and wiped out. Or how about the guy or girl who bitches about when they see the person they want to ask out and of course have this raging crush on. They talk about how it’s going to be so great when they ask this person out, or how it’s total bull shit that they see the this person with another person and another favorite complaint, ‘why don’t they know I like them already, haven’t I made it clear enough?!” This is a person example of someone talking too much and not doing anything meaningful.

The funny and sad thing is that these people doing all this talking honestly believe they are contributing to their success, rather then seeing the lack of anything of the sort. The job seeker has this false belief that they are the only sending emails or making calls. Now honestly I know they don’t go around believing this, that being said looking at their actions the only way they would have any success is that by an action of god they would have to be the only human being looking to fill a job, period. If not then ask yourself how the hell you get a job by sending out 5 emails a day and calling 2 numbers gets you a job. Then of course the person who’s too much of a chicken to grab their pride and make a move, no it always ends up the same way. The chicken gets depressed, man on the other person for not reading their mind, starts moping around everyone and plays a childish, ‘I hate my life’ crap. The funny this is that instead of talking about making a move or putting 110% effort into their search would give them better results and spare the rest of us their awful attitudes.

So why don’t we as a whole stop talking and start doing? Is it a fear of success? I don’t believe so. How about because they never were taught? It may have a role, be it slight. Or is it that we as a whole have spread the message that it’s okay if you fail, as long as you tried a bit you’ll be relived of any fault on you and you don’t need to worry about results because no one is really going to judge you. I believe so. It seems that the medals for 10^th place, the praise for the kids who failed given more so then the one who succeeded because we hurt their feelings and the endless amount of TV (Public television to be blame here more then ANYONE) about how just because you’re born you’re special and don’t worry about earning your respect or pride because you’re owed it and no one can take that away from you.

Has anyone taken the time to maybe look into how this is effecting past and current generations? Maybe it could explain how it seems the current youth work force believes they’re doing you a favor simply by showing up. How about how when you just simply inform them that either they may need to work on something or improve something they take it as a personal insult instead of taking a step back and understanding that they don’t know everything and need to improve on things. I am just asking this question, isn’t it time to cut the talking about doing things and show our children, friends and family that results only come from doing things, not talking about them because nothing gets done or happens until someone puts down what ever they’re doing and just does it.